... rather than fixating on a specific outcome. As you date and relate, throw yourself into the intensity of life and work with the things coming up - instead of asking yourself “when does it finally happen?”, you may create a habit of asking yourself:

• What do I learn from this experience?

• How can I love myself even more, as I go through this?

• How can this experience help me come closer to my truth?

 

… so I feel increasingly safe and more and more trust, allow myself to connect with people who actually get me, as I am being myself?

 

Also, I invite you to reflect on this: 

 

Why should only one type of experience - the long-term, committed partnership - be a valuable experience? What about the process? All the adventures, the aliveness we get to experience, the growth happening, the mental and emotional strength gained? Does it really matter how long a relationship lasts, or rather how we feel in it, how we grow in it, what we learn through it? 

 

Doesn’t it anyways take immense maturity to co-create healthy relationships? And doesn’t the work anyways simply continue in relationship? Do people who are in partnerships in your environment feel more happy, more themselves, more connected? And the singles less? 

 

Does it really depend so much on the framework on whether we feel fulfilled and worthy of happiness? 

 

Should we beat ourselves up and wait to feel fulfilled and worthy until the relationship we long for happens?

 

Or celebrate ourselves each step that we shift patterns which have been in our family lineage for decades or centuries - and enjoy each moment on the journey of getting closer to what we truly desire?

 

I stand for that whatever we cultivate inside, is reflected in the outside. And if we change the outside, it will affect the inside. You can start your journey toward ever deepening and nourishing connection now. Love yourself through it, breathe and get a little loose.