The closer your relationship with yourself, the more nurturing :) your relationship with others will become. And: you don't have to wait for some future day to be ready for a relationship. Here's the crux: you can already have one now.

However, a part deep inside us often doesn't believe it's possible to have nurturing and intimate relationships. These parts are often very young, meaning that our nervous system had experiences in earlier years—often in childhood—that were overwhelming. Parts of our system can go into a state of shock and remain trapped there when we encounter situations that remind us of those earlier experiences.

In coaching, it's about gradually creating new, 'corrective' experiences and increasingly trusting that you are safe, loved, and belong—no matter what happens.

Mainstream dating advice often overlooks that the roots of attachment issues often reach far back into the past. These issues can't be resolved with a few superficial affirmations and simple behavior changes.

In my opinion, it is instead about increasing awareness of one's bodily sensations, emotions, thoughts, and belief patterns; gently integrating traumas and wounds; finding empowerment or building resilience in the nervous system; and boosting self-worth beyond the question of having a partner.

This way, you can begin to enjoy your life and love stories more and more, learn from them, and grow through them—regardless of how long they last.

Arriving, yes! At yourself—whether with or without a partner.